Friday, August 18, 2006

It turned out to be a good Day!

My breakfast with my dad and step-mom went well. We sat at the restaurant for 2 1/2 hours talking. We talked a lot about my growing up years. My dad wanted to know just how much I remembered about my childhood before he moved out.

My parents separated when I was 6 years old. I would go see my dad every other weekend. When I was 13 years old, my parents divorced and my dad moved to Texas. I have seen him a little over a hand full of times since than. He asked a lot of questions about my brother. I wanted him to understand him. My brother was 4 years old when my dad moved out. When we would come back from seeing my dad, my brother would cry so very hard. It still brings tears to my eyes all these years latter. My brother never had the father role model. There was no one to play ball with him or go fishing. No one to just do the things dads and sons would do together. I tried to always protect my brother from harm. I still get broken hearted when something goes wrong in his family or with him. I asked my dad to please give him extra attention. I told him I was at the point in my life I don't need the attention, but my brother does. I think I got my dad to understand. Divorce is so very hard on the children. I don't want to make excuses for my brother; we all have to make a choice how we are going to live. My brother is a successful business man, but I can still see and hear the affects of the divorce.

I finished all the school shopping for my boy’s tonight, except for school supplies. We have open houses on Monday so we will find out what they need.

Shopping ended up being so much fun. I told the kids we were going to split up. 2 boys would go with dad and 2 boys would go with me. My twelve year old boy (one of the twins) asked me if I was kidding. He said "Does dad really know how to pick out school close"? My husband was right in the front seat, but it was as if he wasn't with us. I informed him that dad was a good dresser and he would be able to pick out some good clothes, John looked at me and asked if he could please go with me. It was pretty funny! His dad said we would all shop together!

The exciting thing is I am done!
Clap hands, jump up and down, and do a little cart wheel.

20 comments:

Diane said...

Hi, Lori, and thanks for visiting and commenting on my blog. Drop by anytime. ;D

I make a corn casserole recipe that is very similar to yours. I haven't made it in a good while, I think it's time to make up a batch.

Take care and have a great weekend! :-)

dot said...

Glad you enjoyed meeting with your Dad. Divorce is sad.

Shelley said...

So nice to meet you. Divorce is tough on any age. Its nice that you had some time with your dad. Have a good weekend.

Amy said...

thank you for visiting my blog. I enjoyed yours. So you have 4 boys, 2 that are twins! Wow, you must be busy! Have fun!

Chas said...

Lori, thanks for stopping by my blog as well. So sorry to hear about your dad. My wife has been through two divorces in her 33 years. Once just recently between stepfather and mother. After that many years, it's no easier. Your post reminds me of my responsibilities, duties, obligations as a father but also the amazing joy and love that I have experienced in my 7 short years of this honor.

Revee said...

Lori, glad you enjoyed your visit with your day. You are right, divorce is so hard on children.

Susan in va said...

Woo Hoo for you!!!!

Thanks for stopping by my blog. (I'm glad I could help.)

I'm printing your corn casserole recipe. Corn is my absolute favorite food!! My brother made something like that once and it was DELICIOUS!!

mouse said...

Lori I can tell you care very much about your brother and you are a good big sister. I do hope your dad understands what you were trying to tell him. Families are hard sometimes, when there is a divorce everyone gets confused about where they fit in.

Karmyn R said...

That story about your brother just breaks my heart! When I watch my husband play with our son I understand how important that father/son role is!!! (important for a daughter too, of course)

I hope they can reconnect after all these years!

Jerry Bolton said...

This brought back some painful memories of my own, Lori. Without going into too much detail, just let me say that a daughter that I had never seen searched long and hard enough, and after twenty-nine years found her dad. Tallk about a mixed reunion. Couldn't really call it a reunion, because neither of us had ever laid eyes on each other before. I want to do a book about this, but haven't been able to, it is too close to my heart, I suppose. Thank you for reading my blog and giving some thought to checking out my novel. If you want to skip the shipping and handling charges Lulu puts on the book, I'll autograph it and send it to you for $20.00. However you decide you want to do it is fine and I think you will enjoy it very much. Thanks again for touching base with me.

lori said...

Hi Diane,
I hope you enjoy the recipe. I thought is was very yummy!

lori said...

Dot,
I really did enjoy my meeting with my dad and step-mom. I had them over tonight for dinner and more getting to know each other.

lori said...

Dear Mom called me Sadie
It is nice to meet you as well!

lori said...

Amy,

I have 5 boys, and one girl. My sons are, 28, 16, (twins) 12, and a 9 year old. I have one daughter that is going to be 19 next week.

I am busy, but I love every minute of it.

lori said...

Chas
I am sorry to hear about you wife's stepfather and mother divorce. I am sure it is not easy on your wife. Thank you for your nice comment. It is an honor to be a parent. God has given us these precious little gifts to parent; we just need to do our best to bring them up properly.

lori said...

Revee,
Thank you for your comment! I did enjoy getting to know them. My brother pretty upset with my dad. I pray they can work things out.

lori said...

Susan,

I hope you enjoy the corn recipe! I know my family really did.

lori said...

Mouse,
I do care about my brother. I am two years older than he is. I because my mom was into her own life; I took over and mothered him. I pray it will all work out with all of them.

lori said...

Karmyn R,
I am so glad you have a wonderful husband that loves his son. I do believe boys need a father/father figure in their lives. Thank you for your comment.

lori said...

Jerry,

I am so sorry to hear about your pain. I would love to hear your story sometime. I bet it was very hard to meet someone after 29 years. How nice that your daughter wanted to meet you.