If you have been reading my blog for any length of time, you know I am always trying to grow in one area of my life or another. Right now, I am working on becoming a better wife to my husband. My marriage isn't in any trouble, but does it have to be in trouble for me to want to be a better wife? I am reading a book right now that has me feeling guilty for not being the Godly wife, I really should be to my husband. I have told my husband at least a half dozen times this week how sorry I am for not treating him better these last 21 years. I want to understand how men think, feel, and what they want from their wives. Here are a few things I've learned about men so far.
A man needs to feel strong and needed as a protector for women-basically, to conquer the beast and rescue the fair maiden.
What every man wants is for his woman to make him feel that he is strong and the head of the household. I am not talking caveman-style, dragging the woman around by her hair, but just as the leader of the family.
A man wants respect, kndness, and love from his woman.
A man wants to be put on a pedestal, not so that he can look down on everyone, but to show him that he is the most important thing to his woman.
A man needs his woman to show him that she needs his strength to help her through life.
The man should be the major breadwinner in the family. Every man needs a battle or war to win to prove to himself that he is strong and capable of conquering any and all dragons that life throws his way. Taking care of his family by working and provding are his battles.
A man needs his wife to show some interest in his interests, especially when it's an activity she may not "get" or like. Just being there is important.
A man needs his wife to greet him after work with love and enthusiasm.
A man needs his wife to care about the day he's had.
A man needs his wife's encouragement in order to be a man.
A man needs enthusiastic approval, appreciation, and respect from his wife for being a competent man, husband, and father.
Genesis 2:18 "It is not good that man be alone,I will make him a helper...Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife and they shall become one flesh"
Instead of waiting for him to earn your respect, behave respectfully and watch him grow into the man God designed him to be.
Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”