Friday, June 29, 2007

Husband's feelings and the male Ego

If you have been reading my blog for any length of time, you know I am always trying to grow in one area of my life or another. Right now, I am working on becoming a better wife to my husband. My marriage isn't in any trouble, but does it have to be in trouble for me to want to be a better wife? I am reading a book right now that has me feeling guilty for not being the Godly wife, I really should be to my husband. I have told my husband at least a half dozen times this week how sorry I am for not treating him better these last 21 years. I want to understand how men think, feel, and what they want from their wives. Here are a few things I've learned about men so far.

A man needs to feel strong and needed as a protector for women-basically, to conquer the beast and rescue the fair maiden.

What every man wants is for his woman to make him feel that he is strong and the head of the household. I am not talking caveman-style, dragging the woman around by her hair, but just as the leader of the family.

A man wants respect, kndness, and love from his woman.

A man wants to be put on a pedestal, not so that he can look down on everyone, but to show him that he is the most important thing to his woman.

A man needs his woman to show him that she needs his strength to help her through life.

The man should be the major breadwinner in the family. Every man needs a battle or war to win to prove to himself that he is strong and capable of conquering any and all dragons that life throws his way. Taking care of his family by working and provding are his battles.

A man needs his wife to show some interest in his interests, especially when it's an activity she may not "get" or like. Just being there is important.

A man needs his wife to greet him after work with love and enthusiasm.

A man needs his wife to care about the day he's had.

A man needs his wife's encouragement in order to be a man.

A man needs enthusiastic approval, appreciation, and respect from his wife for being a competent man, husband, and father.

Genesis 2:18 "It is not good that man be alone,I will make him a helper...Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and cling to his wife and they shall become one flesh"

Instead of waiting for him to earn your respect, behave respectfully and watch him grow into the man God designed him to be.

Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”


Live, Love, Laugh said...

what a wonderful post! thanks for sharing this and I think it is wonderful after 21 years you are still wanting to please your husband and honor him as Christ would have you to!

Kristy said...

A lot of wisdom in this post - I LOVE it!!
Why? Because I'm living it out in my own marriage, and I'm blown away.........We serve a HUGE and MIGHTY God, don't we?
If every gal that read this post would even take just one tidbit away from this and try it in her own marriage - I promise you'll be
pleasantly surprised!!
Love ya Lori ;o)
btw: what book are you reading?

Jim said...

Hi Lori, you caught me looking. I read this blog and your mom's note.
But I didn't have time to leave a comment.
I don't think you shared the title of the book you're reading. God wanted men to be worthy of that, "Husbands love your wives as Christ loves ..." but most men aren't.
That isn't an excuse for wives to slack up, but it shoiuld be quid pro quo.
In case you didn't get to the past posts, I am having kneecap surgery Monday. The surgeon will use screws and wires and bone grafting material to get all it back together.
You can pray for me, a lot are.

Linda said...

What a great post Lori. You need to go to Beth Moore's blog "The LPM Blog" and read the post she has written on this very thing. I think you'll be delighted to see how many things you have written in common! Great job.